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When a guy breaks up with you

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Recently the subject of guys and breakups came up and Sabrina and I went back and forth about what When a guy breaks up with you generally go When a guy breaks up with you when they breakup. Breakups are hard on all guys. Simple enough to say, but I know plenty of women will talk about how some guy came off like an insensitive jackass after the relationship fell apart because of his actions post-breakup.

If a guy is profoundly obnoxious or terrible after a breakup, it is most often a testament to how rough the breakup was on him.

Some people cope by lashing out. Jerry Seinfeld once said that breaking up a relationship needs to be like taking off a Band-aid — One motion: In the same regard, when a relationship ends, it is much much harder for a guy to go back and discuss and revisit and talk through and explain, etc.

In fact, guys like to keep their emotional spectrum focused on a tight range of emotions — somewhere between amusement and contentedness. Personally, I have had breakups where I pretty much went cold. I wanted her to be OK, I wanted good things for her in life, but I knew that nothing was going to make the situation better. No discussion was going to fix things, no clarity was to be had — it would have just been an emotional toilet for both of us.

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I realize it probably came off jerky, but when I cut off communication, my heart is in the right place. When he jumps into another relationship, he can get a dose of external female validation and derive a feeling of false sense of self-esteem and self-worth from her positive attention.

It has its cost though and eventually devolves into a crippling neediness. That is to say, he seeks his feeling of validation and worth from how a woman treats him.


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